consists of not much running at all. It does consist of extra sleep and relaxation which always leads to mind clearing that segues into conversation followed by family goal setting interspersed with much laughter and general romantic jazz. This is our week of intense re-connection with one another. And both of us really, really look forward to the time.
For both of us, mountain time involves the concentration of communication with one another. The dailiness of life can crowd out the complete thoughts we mean to share with one another but mountain time gives us a whole week of date nights and days to spend finishing thoughts with one another. Mountain time should not be reserved for only the mountains though.
A friend recently commented to me how much she sees Husband and I talking with one another. About everything. And all the time. I thought all husbands and wives talked a lot with one another. I grew up seeing my Mom and Dad talk all the time. My sister and her husband talk with each other a lot. It is the pattern I am accustomed to following.
More than a pattern though is the fact that Husband is my best friend. He knows me better than anyone else in the whole world. And still loves me. That's worth talking. A lot.
It took time for us to work out communication skills. But we worked at it (and still do), and God orchestrated events in our lives that necessitated real communication. In our first year of marriage we lived in South Korea. When an argument surfaced, I did not have even a local friend to call to "vent", let alone call, email or drive home to Mom's. The talking, the communicating had to be done with the man across the room from me. Our 800 square ft apartment could suddenly shrink to 4 square ft if we chose to ignore the "issue". Not talking was not an option that allowed for sustained living.
The roughest patches of our marriage have always been when we chose to stop communicating. Whether it stems from laziness or indifference or selfishness, not communicating with one another is a relationship killer for us. So, we keep working at it. What mountain time has impressed upon us in its luxury of extra space and time is that the daily work of talking with one another makes this time so much more special.
We know that we will not always have the mountain time, but the daily and weekly time opportunities do happen and therefore require the consistency of communication.
How do you and your husband carve out "mountain time" during the day, week, month and year?